Rosario A. Puga-Dempsey, LMFT
Helping couples, children and individuals find renewed hope in life.
Marriage and Family Therapist
LMFT # 1130539
Tel: (408) 438-1581
TRUST CRUSHED....What now?
REBUILD your relationship
An affair can be defined as a sexual, romantic, or emotional relationship that violates an exclusive relationship with your partner. From a one night stand sexual affair based on lust and impulse, to a series of in-person dates or even online interactions to emotional affairs an affair is a rupture in the couple unit.
Emotional and online affairs may seem morally justified by the offending partner as there may not be any sexual or physical intimacy. Online relationships have less defined boundaries of what would constitute an affair making them harder to recognize. The offending partner may identify the other person as a “special friend” where they bonded through shared common interests or perspectives in a unique way.
This could make the betrayed partner seem jealous or not understanding. Neither emotional nor online affairs should be minimized, as they are often interactions on a path to a sexual affair.
How does affair recovery work?
My role in your healing journey is to help you in building a “new” relationship by providing you with a safe, structured, and thorough process to help you move forward. This structure is customized for each couple but usually consists of the following stages:
Crisis Management to help manage strong emotions and identify boundaries for safety.
Recommitment through transparency and addressing ambivalence.
Reinventing which includes understanding what happened, how it happened, and deciphering the meaning of such affair. As well as, establishing healthy communication patterns, accountability, and establishing trust-building evidence.
Healing with intention that leads to forgiveness, honesty, and transformation.
Throughout this process, you will develop a detailed road map about the nature of forgiveness, realistic strategies for working through the pain, concrete steps to rebuild trust, and ways to reconnect emotionally and physically.
Please remember that the decision to separate or work things out is one of the most impactful decisions you will ever make. Before taking this step, reach out and get qualified professional help. You and your family deserve it.